we really set ourselves up to fail by assuming others understand or are on the same page without getting down to communicating our expectations. and sometimes we aren't even aware of what they are due to unresolved issues. show people the respect and consideration to use your words and have them provide feedback. yes, it takes time, but you're not clairvoyant, why would you expect them
to be? telling someone your feelings should not give someone ammunition to start conflict. slow down and thoughtfully respond rather than hastily reacting. peoples perspective may be entirely different than your own.